Tuesday, December 12, 2006

“I’d lend you a blanket, but it probably has ringworm.”

In the guesthouse common room, there’s a box of lice medication next to packets of Crystal Lite drink mix and lo-cal sweeteners. This is how we roll, in Addis. Meds for ailments that would probably freak out most American parents- may actually be a parent’s worst nightmare stateside- are commonplace. Mothers swap meds to counteract the effects of endless diarrhea; fathers don latex gloves before breakfast to apply cortisone cream to toddlers’ scalps etched with well-established ringworm infections. There is little queasiness, and if there is any, we laugh it off, about the daily clean-ups, disgusting symptoms, and most recent disasters. It seems like every day, at least one toddler has a gusher, a sudden bout of liquid poo that flows out of their diaper, soaking their clothing, their parents’, and the carpet. This is unlike any poo you’ve probably ever come across, with a stench so horrid and lingering, it inspires competitive descriptions by laughing parents drinking local beer late into the night.

By typical American standards, our kids are pretty sick. Aside from the diarrhea (but really, isn’t everything?), these children have conjunctivitis, flowing-green-snotty head colds and barking coughs, practically open-wound diaper rash, bacterial and fungal infections, and a variety of infestations. It is frequently gross, smelly, itchy, or painful around here.

But this is Africa, and every parent here knows that their child is lucky; that he or she could have something much worse than ringworm, lice, scabies, ghiardia, flat worms or parasites. Here, these children are healthy. They look like high school athletes compared to the children we see on the streets. Adoptive parents of African children are unflinching; we treat what we can here, and we save the rest for when we get home to the pediatrician. All of this is no big deal, really- our kids are alive and pretty healthy and going to get much healthier when they get home.

4 comments:

owlhaven said...

Great post-- thanks for sharing!!

Mary, mom to many, including 2 Ethiopians

Anonymous said...

Your experience makes me feel fortunate to live where I do. I can't imagine the difference in cultures. I hope that the rest of your trip goes well. It is great that Ella Messay is as healthy as she is. She will surely prosper under your parenting. I am anxious to meet both Ella and Julia.
God be with you.
Love,
Sister Penny

Stacey LaBahn said...

Finally at a computer where I can send you my most heart-felt congratulations! She is beautiful and it's obivous the girl's got spunk! :) To be embraced by your love and family, what a lucky little girl, as I know you feel lucky to have found her, too.

Can't wait to keep reading and seeing the progress home. What a trip!!

Much love to you all,

Stacey L.

Anonymous said...

Finally at a computer where I can respond!!

My most heart-felt congratulations on finding Messay! She is a beautiful little girl and it's obvious the gal's got SPUNK! :) To be embraced by your love and family, she's a lucky little girl, as I know you are lucky to have found her, too.

I look forward to your further posts and homeward journeys.

Much love,
Stacey LaBahn